Dating after divorce with grown children
When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.
Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.
We slowly began doing fun kids things with just the four of us.Three years and six months later -- we are one super happy family and all because we took it slowly.I love my children too much to rush into anything with anyone. More from Gal Time.com: • 5 Tips for Dating a Guy with Kids • Why You Shouldn't Rule Out Single Parents • 5 Movies Guys Say They Love...The story illustrates the confusion and anxiety children often feel when parents, eager for some measure of happiness and success in a new relationship, struggle over how much distance to place between their children and a newly developing romance."Seeing a parent date is an odd scenario for kids," says M. "It sometimes hammers home the message that our parents are never going to get back together."The power of the reunion fantasy is not to be underestimated, says Neuman, observing that some childrencling to the belief that their parents will get back together even after one parent has remarried.The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.