Chinese attitudes toward dating
Only candidates approved by the parents are allowed to meet their children.
For male candidates, the parents’ biggest concern appears to be their finances.
Zhang Tianshu, a 25-year-old woman from Shenyang who appeared on the show in January, said none of her previous boyfriends had satisfied her mother.“My mom means well.
She wants me to find a good husband — by her standards,” Ms. “I don’t feel a rush to get married, but my parents are worried I won’t be able to find a good husband.”Ms.
With the world’s largest smartphone market, the majority of Chinese Internet users go online through their mobile phone.
According to one industry report, in 2016, the average cost of a wedding in Shanghai was 200,000 renminbi, about ,000.
That does not include the costs of an apartment and a car, which are widely considered prerequisites for an engagement and are typically bought by the young man’s parents.“Matchmaking remains popular because, from the start, each side knows exactly what the other’s background is,” Ms. “It’s efficient when candidates are screened by parents.”Lu Pin, a feminist and cultural critic, said that patriarchal values had never been entirely eliminated from Chinese culture, and that there were signs they were making a comeback.“Many Chinese families have entered the middle class now, and they want to solidify their status by marrying people from a similar background,” Ms. Without parents’ help, she said, many young Chinese cannot afford to marry, and even afterward, they still need help from their parents for things like child care.“Too much protection and support from parents has given rise to a generation that has never really grown up,” Ms.
That’s not the attitude of an adult.”Some commenters on Weibo agreed.
“China is a country full of grown-up babies,” one user wrote.