27 year old woman dating a 19 year old
In other words, a deep connection on an intellectual level is likely a rare thing, say experts. “One theory proposes that one of the greatest motivators for human behavior is the ‘denial of death’ (the theory proposes that this is why we create art, why we mentor others, etc. Dating a younger woman can help men feel more youthful and help stave off the midlife crisis (when we stop thinking about our lives in terms of time from birth and start thinking about our lives in terms of time till death),” Wright says.
In fact, one interesting theory is that as men approach middle age, they begin thinking about death more and more, and begin to behave almost like vampires, believing that they can “live forever” just by being in the vicinity of youth. In addition to staring death in the face, there are other theories that address why much older men date actual teenager.
Most aren’t even aware that this is what’s going on, says A. “Probably the most prominent would be evolutionary psychology, which posits that men are attracted to youth and the kind of beauty that is unconsciously linked to procreation,” Wright says.
“While men can procreate throughout their lives, dating a younger woman (especially quite a bit younger) lengthens the ‘window’ for being able to have children.
It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. Men want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want older men.
Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40 people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43..
What are attractive and valuable in our society for women are youth, beauty…for men, less so.” These all likely are contributing in some way to this type of relationship/attraction, even if the men involved aren’t really in touch with why they are attracted to someone who is so much younger.
"For others, it may be a longing or need to be doted upon and appreciated for their stature and significance.Given the differences in values, views and often life goals for a 19-year-old versus a 45-year-old, I would say that generally these romances are unlikely to last.For a relationship to work, there has to be a mutual understanding and communication which is much harder — though not impossible — to find when the generational divide is so wide." Personal Space is Bravo's home for all things "relationships," from romance to friendships to family to co-workers. Then Like us on Facebook to stay connected to our daily updates.Another says: “A lot of dudes in their 20's do not match up to the expectations set by girls in their 20's. Girls 18-19 tend to have lower expectations.” New York-based psychotherapist Camilla Mager says that while the positive impact on one’s self-esteem cannot be underestimated, these relationships aren't likely to last."It is too simple to reduce it to money or sex, but hard not to given the obvious differences in credibility, maturity and beauty.